You Seemed Fine is now available

It’s official. You Seemed Fine: A Guide to Functioning (Sort of) is now available.

I started writing this book because I had spent a long time getting very good at looking fine.

Twenty years ago, I wrote You Tried: A Deadbeat’s Guide to Self-Actualization from the perspective of someone who was angry, depressed, and trying very hard to understand why life seemed to work better for everyone else.

You Seemed Fine is what happened when I came back to that question twenty years later, with a better understanding of neurodiversity, masking, burnout, and the considerable difference between functioning and actually being okay.

It’s deeply personal and occasionally uncomfortable. It is also, I hope, funny in the places where being honest about ourselves gives us no other reasonable option.

If you’ve ever been told that you seem fine while quietly wondering how much longer you can keep it up, this one might be for you.

You Seemed Fine: A Guide to Functioning (Sort of) is available now.